Imagine
never having read anything more than a bank statement and even then having
trouble getting into it.
Slowly
picking your way through the numbers and trying to make sense of the words,
knowing full well you cannot understand them and then have to fake your way out
of that situation in meetings with people who take reading and writing for
granted. You can run a business successfully but you can't understand the terms
of business that's written down in front of you, but you can memorise the words
for later discussion. This is how some people live.
My husband
had undiagnosed Aspergers most of his adult life (being recently diagnosed),
meaning he coped and not only coped but set in place various strategies to get
round his dyslexia and anti social behaviour.
His achievements at this have to
be admired, unlike other socially inept people (like me) who bluster and excuse
their way through life, he manages to avoid, control and above all allow other
people to make social faux pas without recrimination or judgement (something am
not good at). Aspergers, dyslexia and social awkwardness are common,
infuriating difficult bedfellows. He copes daily with this. Though it's worth
noting that not all dyslexics have Aspergers or vice versa, this is just his
experience.
My husband
had never read a book. I wrote a book, it became a best seller, he can't read
it. Then one day he was offered the Listening Books Scheme online and spotted
audio books at the local library. This totally changed his life.
The local library
are aware he has reading problems and yet they are increasingly helpful and
patient. Even when my husband issues a constant verbal complaint that some of
his favourite modern crime books are filed under 'historic crime' when they aren't
OR when a series of books is in the library and they fail to tell you that this
is number 6 of a series of 10...that makes people with Aspergers fractious and
repetitive about this issue, in fact he is repeating it again as I write this.
Yet despite
these tiny problems (he just asked me to refrain from calling it a tiny problem
as it's a huge problem and needs attention) he finally gets to 'read' books. He
has devoured the classics, the man is an expert on Ancient Rome, The History of
London and everything that Dickens ever wrote. I am immensely proud of him. We
now share and recommend books in our house.
It warms my
heart to see him discuss the plot of a book with our daughter who has been a
voracious reader from age 4 years old. She used to read to her dad. I cannot
tell you how much the listening books scheme and audio section of the local
library have changed my husband's life. He goes nowhere without his latest
audio book and can happily switch off from life and lose himself in good book, something I had taken for granted
since I was a child.
We go to the
library together and I attempt to read the synopsis out and before I can even
start, he looks at the image and can tell me in seconds if he has read it, such
is his ability to use memory imagery.
Then he can tell me the whole plot of the
book by remembering the colours and fonts they used on the cover. Aspergers is
amazing.
Audio books
and the Listening Book Scheme online are a life changer for us, I just wanted
to write about this and let the library people and the Listening Book Scheme
people know that. Thanks.
